Hey Whatever Happened To ‘Thank You’ Notes?
These days thank you notes seem to be a thing of the past. When I was growing up, writing thank-you notes was a hassle but necessary task that followed every gift-receiving occasion. My parents made me write one for each Christmas present or cash-enclosing birthday cards to everyone. But as an adult, I see the importance and meaning of writing thank you notes. I can count on one hand how many thank you cards I have received from kid’s of friends and even family, on gifts I have given. Though most parents I know are polite, and they try to teach their children manners, but it looks like writing thank-you notes is not included.
This is too bad, because I believe teaching children valuable lessons like writing thank you notes will help them in the future — socially, financially and in business.
Here are some etiquette tips to follow concerning thank you notes from famed Emily Post;
Shower Gifts –
Even though the gift giver attended the shower in your honor and you had a chance to say thanks for her gift, you should still send a written note.
Wedding gifts -
Each wedding gift should be acknowledged with a written note within three months of receipt of the gift. It’s best to write the notes as soon as possible after gifts arrive, however. Write a note even if you have thanked the giver in person.
Congratulatory gifts or cards -
Anyone who sends a present, or a card with a personally written message, should receive a note in return.
Gifts received when sick –
Thank-you notes should be written as soon as the patient feels well enough—or a friend or relative can write the notes. It’s okay to call close friends rather than write.
Condolence notes or gifts –
Everyone who has sent a personal note, flowers or a donation should get a written thank-you. A close friend or relative can write the notes on the recipient’s behalf.
Some may feel writing thank you notes is “old fashioned” but when you receive on, it’s a great feeling. My Grandmother would be proud!