Talking To Women May Not Be As Complicated As You Think
I know, I know our world is FILLED with generalizations. In our meme-saturated society, even the earth's most complex creatures are boiled down into black and white categorization. The truth is, that's just not reality.
For example, for years I've heard guy friends who are hoping to find a relationship--or even just a date--go on and on about how complicated women can be and how they never know what to say, how to act, or what to do to make a good impression. They imagine women are these continually over-emotional, fickle creatures that make it impossible to know where you stand. Hey...it may not be as difficult as you think it is.
Now, are there super high-maintenance women out there? Oh heck yeah. Some women do, in fact, have "expectations" that may seem a bit unreasonable to some. Some of us can, in fact, be moody sometimes and have emotional reactions to things that may seem over the top. Turns out, so can some men. :)
At the end of the day, women are human beings. All human beings are complex. We are naturally going to "click" with some better than others. Our complexities just mesh well with certain personalities and thus we, and they, seem less complex. After having numerous conversations, one of the things I hear most often from my women friends is "why can't he just talk to me like a normal person--like just say hello."
I think sometimes men feel this pressure to drop a "line" or present themselves in ways that they think will impress someone. But to be fair, some women play little games, too. Everyone is different. The best method for truly connecting with someone is just to be yourself. Sure, be the best version of yourself if you can. Be courteous. Be a friend. If you do those things, you'll connect with the ones that "get you."
At the end of the day, isn't that what everyone wants? Someone with whom they can be themselves and who sees and likes the person that they are in reality? I think many relationship disasters could be avoided if we just were authentically ourselves from the beginning. Hopefully, this takes a little bit of pressure off.