Damaging Workplace Trend: Gaslighting and ‘Subtle Sabotage’

Texas—Some co-workers and bosses are gaslighting employees in some workplaces enough that experts consider it to be a dangerous trend.

I think the word 'gaslighting' has become overused. The same goes for overdiagnosing someone as a 'narcissist.' Yes, of course, they exist. But. Sometimes, it feels like people are labeled simply because of one or two misunderstood interactions. Many of us are tired of that.

At the same time, it's important to recognize patterns of subtle sabotage so you can protect yourself if needed.

How to spot workplace gaslighting and recognize subtle sabotage by some bosses. 

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Fortune shared a story that highlights a growing concern about a subtle but potentially damaging form of workplace manipulation: workplace gaslighting.

Workplace gaslighting may leave those affected questioning their own value and competence in the workplace. Granted, we've all had and needed bosses to give us crucial feedback to help us be better at our jobs. We can all benefit from additional training and insight from those in management.

That's not what we're talking about here.

Workplace gaslighting occurs when a manager or a co-worker uses subtle actions to undermine someone.

One way they may do this is by assigning 'office housework.' That means giving someone menial tasks while also hesitating to recognize what that employee brings to the table.

Another example of workplace gaslighting could be repeatedly assigning tasks that are outside the realm of what an employee does at the company.

An example might be having an employee take notes at a meeting or organize events when those are not part of their job descriptions.

The problem with this is that some of these 'other' tasks tend to fall on certain people, which can make it harder for them to succeed in what would be considered their core responsibilities.

To be fair, we are all asked to do things outside of our job descriptions from time to time. In many cases, work teams are smaller than they once were, and we are all asked to step up to help the team within reason.

Again, that's not what we're talking about. In my opinion, it comes down to the intention behind the request.

Beware of those who consistently undermine your work or decisions. 

Not to be redundant, but correction or critical feedback is part of managing people and encouraging them to improve for their own growth. What makes this become a red flag? One example may be when goals are subtly altered without discussion. When feedback is given, it is vague and leaves you confused about the best course of action to take to show improvement.

This trend is thought to contribute to some employees 'quietly quitting' or experiencing dissatisfaction and even burnout.

How can you empower yourself in these situations?

In my opinion, it's best to tread gently here. It can be easy to misinterpret the well-intentioned feedback or requests from management. In many cases, they mean well. So don't unfairly judge where it may not be warranted.

At the same time, awareness is a crucial first step in addressing possible workplace gaslighting. According to experts, you may want to document instances of what you perceive could be subtle sabotage and seek counsel from HR professionals or trusted co-workers.

Also, make sure the lines of communication are clear and appropriate boundaries are set. There are respectful ways to inquire about these requests or issues without jumping to conclusions.

Have you faced 'subtle sabotage' or 'workplace gaslighting'? If so, please reach out at tara.holley@townsquaremedia.com.